With all due respect, a phrase you know is followed by something fucked up, the idea you present that all cheating men are stupid on AM is only as good as what you gave. It is a cheating site. Like a horse or cattle auction men want to see the entirety of the bovine, beast and human to make a clear decision. His penis has over for his brain. He is asking in his child like mind. Your entire post was ill conceived. There are plenty of men who love plus sized to plus plus sized women. By being forthright and secure in your images and written communication, you wouldn't have men asking to be reasonable and hookup with your mind. If you don't like obese men, you aren't going to hook up with one. Men are cheating for sex and intimate conversation they are not getting from their partner. If you are not the kind of person who cheats and does not want random banging, don't go looking for anything reasonable on a cheat site. The guys who get laid are eloquent in writing and if they are not, they have bodies to counter that. Gross slobs living with mommy and don't shower often are not fucking anyone. Men are told sometimes they are not in the same league as the woman they are pursuing. That can be true unless the man is a great communicator. Same goes for a woman. I am not sure what you were expecting. When I go to the toilet, I make a deposit and not a withdrawal.