Whatever you do, never let it tear you down.
The hunt is the most exciting part of dating. It takes patience, time, and tooling depending on the type of woman you want to date. I remember on a dating app going over all of my words I posted and carefully editing and revising for weeks until I had three dates per week - coffee or soft drink first dates only for me - meeting new people and knowing that I don't expect anything from any of them but I was more than surprised with the number of second dates.
Dating can be a fun game and you can learn pretty quickly who are needy and desperate or distant and taking their time.
Juliette, since you have found may of these same types of men and don't like it, you need to adjust your strategy.