Incredible what you went through. I wish I could say that I was any better of a man in my needs and wants. I am sexual and I expect my relationships to be mutually satisfying as well as full of love. I have been very blessed in life but did my first wife, may she RIP, or does my second wife feel as blessed?
Then you mentioned the church. Something built from lies about a real prophet, Jesus, but turned into a control structure where anything you may say that is different is met with violence and hatred. No one who is a zealot can be trusted. I could care less about what these people have to say. I hope you can see how horrible it truly is and maybe someday we will know the truth and the truth will set us free.
You deserved to be protected and feel protected. Sad that it didn't happen.