Always treat her with respect, but let her know she is the only slut you want.
Always treat her with respect, but let her know she is the only slut you want.
I want to begin with a statement my late wife often told me. It was how we kept our marriage hot for over twenty years until she passed: “We must always remember we are boyfriend and girlfriend.”
It was how we always thought of each other and treated one another. She and I would look for new ways to impress each other and better, more intense ways to get each other off.
She was always a believer in balance as a mother and wife. She told the children about mommy-daddy time and how it was important not to barge in or bang on the door unless it was an emergency.
We had no-holds-barred action when it came to our pleasure, and I didn’t realize how far we leaned into BDSM until the first time I was able to have mind-blowing sex again.
How do you and your partner get here?
It all begins with a plan way before you even meet them.
You have to decide what you want. Do you want a wife, or do you want to fuck around?
Sit still for a while, talk to friends who are fuck boys, listen to divorced couples. Know the benefits of each type of lifestyle.
Are you willing to let her have other sex partners if you want others too?
Will love hold you strong enough to endure that?
Do you want a marriage with a woman you will find attractive even when she wakes up covered in drool and tangled hair?
Will she smell like your perfect dessert so you will know her even if you go blind?
Yes, these are a lot of questions, but if you want something that will last a lifetime and keep the temptations available at bay, you will need to consider these and a lot more. Don’t lose your mind trying to answer them all.
Here’s why?
I knew when I had asked God for a wife with all the details I wanted, there were some things I forgot to ask or consider, but once this woman appeared to me, it was like a lightning strike or when the couple in a romantic movie bang their heads picking something up.
I knew from the first date she would be the one I would marry.
Every time I touched her, I would get hard. It didn’t matter if I had the flu or we had an argument. My second brain would stand at attention.
If you are in a relationship, get married, have mind-blowing sex, and start to have kids, do not let your sexual relationship get stale. She is pregnant. She cannot get more pregnant. Many times the woman is horny as hell when she is carrying, so you better not stop pleasing her.
Touch her every time you can. “Copping a feel” should be a habit you never tire of because she won’t, even if she complains. This goes well with smack-that-ass but refrain in front of her parents unless your father-in-law is already doing it. You may want to avoid doing it in church or temple, but putting your hand palm up as she sits makes her twitch in the best way.
When she is pregnant and following delivery, she probably gained weight, but if you marry a woman who pays attention to her health, then suck it up, get down there, and make her cry out loud because she will see you want her the same and do the actions to get herself in good shape again.
If you didn’t, but she rocks every part of your sexual world, get down there and do your job.
You may be tired too, but remember to wash up, brush before bed, make out with her like it’s the last time, and get down there and eat your dessert. If you aren’t too tired, expect her to go down on you and eventually mount you.
I only ever fell asleep once and she smacked me awake. I squeezed her nipples, and we were off again.
Getting up at 3 a.m. does that, but since you are up and the baby is asleep, help each other get tired again.
Everyone says a great marriage takes work, and it does. Lots and lots of sex of every kind you and your wife can imagine takes away the pain of a lot of other things, and together, you will grow in a positive, loving way.
Disclaimer: If you are an asshole, it’s okay as long as you are never one to her. If you are physical in a rough way, it’s okay as long as you are never violent to her or your kids. If she likes it rough, that is great. Hit the gym, push weights, punch a bag, or a sparring partner.
In conclusion, choose wisely, consider all your options, let the universe find you a match, and hold on for an amazing ride.
PS: Sexual fantasies and role-playing will let you explore your deepest, darkest desires with each other. It’s okay if you are thinking of Charlize Theron sometimes when she is thinking of Channing Tatum.
PSS: Ask all your questions before you put the ring on. Ask her friends, too. Be careful of the frenemy. They and she will tell you what she is like, so listen and watch herbody language. Watch her parents, or lack thereof. You may have to be daddy, and that can be fun, too.
These views are all mine but if you’re interested in another person’s view on human sexual activity: https://exe.io/Dan_Savage
